Continuing the conversation about Amy Chua’s article…
Amy Chua tells us that Chinese mothers are superior because they’re committed to raising their children to be successful adults. Frankly, I don’t know any mom, Chinese or otherwise, who approaches parenting with the goal of raising a loser. Amy makes the issue a“Chinese” thing. I disagree. It’s a God thing, and from where I’m sitting, we all have a lot to learn!
Our view of God directly affects how we raise our kids. It shapes our definition of success and guides every decision we make on their behalf. For instance, my view of God’s love doesn’t allow me to demean my children the way Amy advocates. They are precious gifts, created by God in His image. He calls us to encourage, exhort, teach, train and discipline them, however, He does not allow me to demean or belittle them.
Our view of God determines our definition of success and provides a grid for parenting that’s based on His unchanging character, rather than on often flawed societal values. Because God created my children with unique gifts and a specific purpose I believe it is my job, as their mom, is to help them discover what those are.
Amy Chua believes it is the parent who determines their children’s destiny and then forces them to comply. The God of the Bible says that He is in charge of our children’s destiny. He does, however, expect us to equip them with the tools they need to love God with their heart, soul and mind and to do “everything as unto the Lord” with all their strength.
If I’m serious about raising children to be mature adults who love God and do everything in life “as unto the Lord”, it requires my time, energy, prayers, prayers and…did I mention prayers?
So what’s the best parenting advice I can give? Pursue your own relationship with God everyday. Get to know the God of the Bible better every day and let your relationship with Him guide how you parent your children. It sounds simple, but it’s the best place to start! As my husband is fond of saying, “Unlike the Federal government, you can’t give away what you don’t own.”