Monthly Archives: May 2012

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Why can’t I be satisfied?

It’s been a while since I’ve written on the blog. In addition to the regular crazy “life” stuff, Brad and I have been putting the finishing touches on a book for children entitled Because God is…, published by Harvest House. I’m sooo excited about the book! I’ll tell you more about it as the January 2013 release date approaches!

I’ve heard many stories from women that have a common thread… they aren’t satisfied with their life… they want more. When asked what “more” is, some can answer specifically. Others don’t have a clue. Have you ever feel that way? I sure have! Women are not the only one’s that struggle with it. Many men wake up every day to face a life they’re disappointed in…

What are some of the culprits?

Single—want to be married
Married—want spouse to be different, act different…
Married—want to have children
Children—want them to grow up and be out of the house
Working—want a different job
Working—want a raise, to be valued
Out of work—want a job
Own a house—want a bigger house
Living in an apartment—want a house
Living on the street—want a roof, any roof

“Wanting” something is not necessarily wrong. ‘Wanting’ the right things can motivate us to do what it takes to achieve our goals. But the enemy of our souls knows the power of our “wants” and he uses them with unnerving success to rob us of joy.

On my 29th birthday I began to wonder if I might not get married… thus began one of my “black” years. Loneliness wrapped around my heart. “Lord, how could You make us for the marriage relationship and then not provide it for me?” “Lord, I’m so lonely. Why aren’t You providing a relationship for me?” “Lord, I love You, I want to serve You, that should be enough, but I’m still so unsatisfied and empty… Why?”

When I finally asked the last question, God was ready with an answer. His loving rebuke went like this:

Sweet daughter, you’re focusing on the one thing I’m not giving you and you’re missing the myriad of gifts I’m showering on you every day. You focus on what I’m giving others and covet those gifts for yourself. I know your pain and loneliness. I’m not providing what you want because I know a better way to satisfy your needs. You see only one way to quench your loneliness. I have a different way. Don’t settle for second best. Satisfaction begins with your focus. Focus on Me and give thanks for what I am giving. Trust Me to meet your needs in the best possible way and in the best possible time.

God brought my amazing husband into my life 2 years later… in the perfect time and place!  During those 2 years God satisfied my loneliness through several quality friendships rather than one.  Focus made all the difference.

Sweet sisters and brothers in Christ, if you are disappointed or dissatisfied with your life, I encourage you to focus on God and His character. Ask Him to open your eyes to what He is doing in your life and refuse to dwell on what He is not. Do you trust Him to do what’s in your best interest? Do you trust Him to fill you to overflowing?  He promises He will, and because God is Faithful, you can trust Him to keep His promise!

How has God met your needs in unexpected ways? I would love to hear your story!

And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from His glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19 NLT